infertility

Today I spoke to a friend of mine that I hadn’t got to talk to for a few months. She, too, had a tubal reversal and it was around the same time as mine. We had calmed each other’s fears before the surgery, and even complained together afterward! (There really wasn’t much to complain about at that point, just about having to wait to try to conceive when we were so excited to be finally ‘whole’ again.) Unfortunately, she hasn’t been able to conceive either. Through the course of the last two years, we’ve commented back and forth about people who would post on message boards that after so many months of trying, they were “giving up”. While we commend those folks for being strong enough to just walk away from the basal thermometer and all, we just didn’t understand how it was possible. And, I still don’t. I’ve practically given up. I don’t take my temperature anymore. I don’t test for ovulation. And, I don’t look for potential signs of pregnancy. But… I think there comes a point in time where, unfortunately, a woman just knows too much. For example, I know by a glance at my undies if I’m fertile. I know when I’m about to ovulate just by how I feel. I know what typical signs and symptoms to watch for so that I no longer think I’m pregnant (at the same time, when something’s different….). On those days when I know I’m fertile, though, more often than not I magically get “in the mood” when it’s time for bed. So, knowing everything I do, I think it’s virtually impossible for a woman to just “give up” when she’s been trying so long. She is either still trying to get pregnant, or she’s trying to avoid pregnancy. Does this make sense to anyone else??

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