infertility

More often than not, a couple who begins trying to conceive find themselves on different schedules — whether it be different schedules in regards to work shifts, sleep schedules, or even different schedules concerning when they want conception to take place. Sometimes these differences are fairly easy to work around. For example, even a couple who work different schedules can make time to make love occasionally — just make sure that those occasional times happen around ovulation! Differing sleep schedules are a little more difficult, especially when one partner is an early bird and the other a night owl. This too, though, can be overcome by the two agreeing to a designated “bed time” for a few days out of the month (especially if you have other children in the house). If there are no other children, one person can surely manage to spend a little time in the bedroom before Mr./Mrs. Early-Bird starts snoozing. However, not being on the same schedule in regards to when to conceive isn’t so easy to work out. It may be much more important to one person than the other. And, while this in itself can create problems, even bigger problems arise when one party almost (can’t prove it) does things intentionally to screw up the process around critical times of the month. I don’t know how you fix this, and unfortunately, I’m still fighting this battle around my house, too. It never fails that what is important to one person isn’t quite so important to the other. Yet, when the person who so desires something loses hope and starts to focus elsewhere, it’s the disinterested party who starts adding fuel to that dying flame once again. Oh — and then the whole process starts all over. If you’re not in this position, thank your lucky stars. If you are, well… I feel your pain. I’m open to suggestions if you know how to fix this scheduling problem!

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