infertility

It’s pretty common for a woman who is considered infertile to question what she might have done differently in the past.  Most of the time, the answer is simply ‘nothing’.  For most cases of infertility, there really is very little that a woman could have done to prevent it.  Most cases, that is… not all.

I, like thousands of other women, am solely responsible for my infertility.  I wasn’t always infertile, it was my choice. I, like so many other women, agreed to sterilization.  Because my son was born only 14 months after my daughter (and I did have a somewhat difficult pregnancy), my doctor flat out told me that having another child would kill me.  Add this statement with the fact that my relationship with his father was anything but stable at the time, and you’ve got a recipe for disaster.  I agreed to the tubal ligation.

Years later, we came to the conclusion that we had made the wrong decision and we needed to right it.  Tubal reversal was something I’d never even heard of, but I was certainly keen on learning!  I researched my options, and we made our decision of where to go.  Unfortunately, things didn’t work out so well for me.  Although I had plenty of tubal length after the surgery, the tubes scarred shut.  Both my tubes are closed.

I do know infertility. It took me almost two years to get pregnant with my first child, and I was three days away from an infertility appointment when I found out I was pregnant with her.  Now, I’m in no better position.  I am infertile and it’s of my own accord.  I know others understand my position, and I’m sure there are others in my position.  Know you’re not alone.

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